Good morning, hope you are good. I came across your write ups this morning on infidelity among spouses and I was very much intrigued at your uttermost sincerity, brute directness and not to forget your choice of words used in describing the issue.
I know many married men and women will get a kick after reading it.
So here are a few things why I’m writing you.
My name is Kenneth, 33, from Imo State, a project manager in a fast rising telecoms company in Abuja. And I’m single!
1. I think you should put up an article that addresses the issue of married woman seemingly giving up the sex appeal after marriage. That is doing things that turn on their man and keeping him interested in them. These could be… smelling good…mouth and body wise…looking sexy.
For God sake, they should take Omotola Jalade-Ekehinde as an example! These women should wear skimpy dresses for their husbands at home, instead of tying wrapper and looking like his mother.
They should keep their shape as much as possible. The art of seduction should never be thrown away after marriage. Married women should be adventurous too; sex must not only be done on the bed, with the lights off and in a room. Whoever said only single young adults should have sex in the car, beach, public toilet and dark corners of a street?
Most married women forget the husbands during child birth and after and that’s when many men start to cheat.
Yes! The average man has the tendency to cheat. It’s in our genes, but the women should stop making it easy for us and pushing us into it unknowingly.
Why can’t the women do the same thing those slutty mistresses do?
Like sucking him in the car, giving him a quickie while his friends are drinking in the sitting room, dig into his fantasy world and role play it out for him?
2. Try convincing the men to take time out and teach their wives what they like. If she had gained some weight after child birth, dump her in a gym for three months and pick up newer version of her after three months. Try going out of town weekends a lot, go watch a football match together in a stadium and see what the shouting together will do to your sex life. Try getting tipsy together and banging your brains out away from your home.
I think you have pointed out the issue, try giving them a solution.
Furthermore, I would like to know you. That is, if you’re single and it’s OK with you. (smiles).
But if you’re married, I would love it if you could help me in getting a decent lady for a really nice committed relationship with getting married being the end product.
I have been single for almost a year, can’t seem to meet the right lady here in Abuja as most women here prefer to be a married man’s puppet and see most single men as an oil well.
I’m not saying I’m perfect but I know what I need in my life at this point in time. I’m based in Abuja, so if she is based here, it will be cool. I will not mind Lagos as well because I could be transferred there this year.
I really look forward to reading from you soonest.
Kind regards, Ken.
My dearest Ken, I dey feel you!
I heard and understood all you’ve said. Since you’ve taken time to enumerate and mention these problems and solutions in matrimony, I don’t think there’s any need for me to start going all over it again. That would be overkill!
My dear Ken, you must however take note and always remember this: It takes two to make a relationship/marriage work.
Like my friend Faith used to say: “Dog wey go lost, no dey hear him master whistle.”
This means that some men, no matter how hard or beautiful their wives look or dress…they would always cheat on her.
It’s not only women that end up looking like fufu that had gone sour after marriage.
Men also tend to allow themselves to go. They become too fat and their stomach rivals that of their wives who is nine months pregnant. They become monkeys in bed…always ready to slide their eager manhood into an indifferent vagina.
Whether the woman is wet or not, it’s no longer their worry. They don’t care whether they bruise their wives or not. They just want to graze the grass in the farmland and quickly fly out. Whether the woman comes or not, does not matter as long as they achieve their own orgasm.
You talked about going out as a couple…football matches and other places…but it’s the guy who has to create the time first for such leisure periods. It’s his call. It’s also true that the woman can initiate it.
But most men prefer to spend time in the office or with their drinking buddies.
I have always told people and I fervently believe in it, that one of the best ways to manage relationship/marriage is communication!
Take that to the banks!
Nothing beats that!
Why can’t a husband tell his wife that this is how I want you to dress? Why can’t the husband go to the boutique and buy the kind of wears he likes her to be putting on?
Do you know that most men put in more efforts in lovemaking with their mistresses than with their wives? How many of them go down on their wives and how many of them allow their wives to go down on them? How many bothers anymore to suckle their wives’ flattened, defeated looking boobs since the kids started coming?
In a nutshell, the problems are both ways. Thus it needs both partners to work on it. Cheating on your spouse because she’s fat after the kids had started coming is the lamest excuse I had ever heard!
I must add again that we’ve treated most of these topics on this very site: www.theeagleoneline.com.ng.
You only need to search and you’d find more topics along that line.
And because I believe in your ideas, I want all people to read this your nice piece.
We hope to hear from other readers and hear their take on relationship/marriage issues. How do we make it better?
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