Starting a new relationship is both wonderful and tricky.
You are infatuated about your partner and you love being around him all the time. Your partner makes you happy and it seems like you make him happy as well. However, there seems to be a disconnect in your new relationship bliss: your partner wants to have sex with you and you don’t feel ready. This might be your first time, or you decided that because this person is so special to you, you don’t want to rush things. Whatever the reason, you have the right to wait as long as you feel necessary. It’s your body and it’s your decision.
Here are some clues to delay sex in a new relationship:
Don’t do sleepovers. If you don’t want to have sex, you shouldn’t put yourself and your partner in situations when sex will be an option. Stay away from your partner’s place when you are finished with your date and just go home. You should also not wait for romantic getaways or trips which require you to spend the night together.
Don’t get drunk. Drinking while trying your hardest to keep sex from happening with the person you care about and find attractive is not a smart idea. Alcohol could get the best of you both by clouding your judgement, and once you cross that line there is no turning back.
Make an excuse your partner is likely to believe. If you do end up sharing a bed and your partner is making it clear that he wants to have sex, you should have an excuse at hand. You can always say that you are not feeling well, or are tired and have to get up early in the morning. However, lying is not a good way to start a relationship so consider if it’s worth it.
Be honest with your partner. This is your best option if you want to continue having an open and loving relationship. Explain to your partner that while you care for him, you are just not ready for sex and would like to wait until you are. Even if this sounds corny, if your partner really likes you, he will have no problem respecting your wishes.