Nigerian men have been accused of not being romantic. This was the conversation that I got caught up in the other day at an event. A group of women were complaining about their partners waking them up early in the morning for sex.
It’s not even about the sex. I’m sure some women don’t mind it. But they need to know that women are wired differently from men.
A lot of men wake up with an erection, but women need to be stimulated before sex. It’s a general belief that penetration of the penis into the vagina is all it takes for a woman to enjoy sex, but it’s so much more than that. The way you wake your woman for sex will determine how she responds and how pleasurable the experience will be for you both.
Romantic wake-ups are a beautiful way to start the day with your partner. They create a loving and positive environment and show your affection and care for your loved one beyond sex.
Here are a few ideas for waking your partner up in a romantic way:
1. Start by setting the stage: Creating a romantic atmosphere is crucial to setting the right mood. Before you go to bed, take a few minutes to prepare the bedroom. Dim the lights, add some soft music, and tidy up the space. These small thoughtful gestures will add to the overall experience.
2. Get prepared the night before: To ensure a smooth morning wake-up, prepare any necessary items the night before. If you plan to serve breakfast in bed, decide on the menu and gather all the ingredients and utensils ahead of time. Additionally, choose your partner’s favourite flowers and position them near the bed to surprise them when they wake up.
3. Wake up early and silently: Waking up a few minutes earlier than your partner allows you time to carefully plan your surprise and ensure they wake up to a romantic gesture. Try to be as silent as possible, so you don’t disturb their sleep. Use the extra time to collect your thoughts and mentally prepare for the surprise.
4. Prepare a special breakfast: Breakfast in bed is a classic romantic gesture. Prepare their favourite breakfast dish and complement it with fresh fruits, pastries, or a warm cup of coffee. Remember to include a handwritten note expressing your love and appreciation. It will be nice if you serve the meal on a beautiful tray with a flower arrangement for an extra touch of elegance, but it’s not compulsory.
5. Gently wake them up with affection: When it’s time to wake up your partner, do it gently and with affection. Start by lightly caressing their face or arms, slowly trying to awaken them from their slumber. Whisper sweet words in their ear such as: “Good morning, my love,” or: “Time to wake up to another beautiful day together.”
6. Give them a soothing massage: Massage is a fantastic way to relax and become more connected with your partner. While they are still in bed, offer them a soothing massage to help them wake up with a sense of calmness and tranquillity. Use scented oils such as lavender or chamomile, and focus on their neck, shoulders, and back areas. As you massage, engage in light conversation to make them feel more connected and cherished. You can do this on weekends when you’re both not rushing off to work.
7. Plan a surprise outing: Sometimes, the best way to wake your partner up is to whisk them away on an unexpected adventure. Plan a surprise outing to their favourite location, whether it’s a nearby park, beach, or a scenic overlook. Wake them up with a gentle kiss, and let them know you have something special planned for the day. Ensure you pack everything necessary such as a picnic blanket, snacks, and drinks to create a memorable experience.
8. Pamper them with a morning spa session: Another way to romantically wake up your partner is by pampering them with a mini-spa session. Run a warm bath infused with their favourite bath oils and salts. Once the bath is ready, gently wake them up and guide them to the bathroom. Play soft music in the background and light scented candles to set a relaxing ambiance. Offer to wash their hair and body or give them a soothing foot or hand massage while they relax in the tub. This can be done on holidays or weekends.
9. Surprise them with a love letter: Nothing can express your love and affection more than a heartfelt love letter. Before waking up your partner, write them a letter expressing your feelings and appreciation. Place the letter somewhere they will easily notice when they wake up. This loving gesture will not only make them feel cherished but also add an element of surprise to their morning routine.
10. Close the morning wake-up with a warm embrace: Finally, after the surprise and affectionate gestures, finish the morning wake-up with a warm embrace. Hold your partner close, embracing them with love and care. Savour the moment and appreciate each other’s presence. This simple act will leave a lasting impression on your partner, reminding them of your love and devotion.
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In conclusion, waking your partner up in a romantic way is a gesture that shows love, care, and affection. Having sex after this makes the experience more pleasurable and helps create a better bond. This helps you start your day on a positive note. Remember, love and devotion are expressed through actions, so make every moment count.
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