As I was saying, an average Nigerian guy will be able to ball two women on the same day, if not at the same time! I mean, take a look at polygamous men who have six or more wives and even have timetable prepared on how they can go about carrying out their conjugal duties.
That today is Iya-Biliki’s night in bed, doesn’t mean the man wouldn’t ball Iya-Kudi in the morning.
The most astonishing thing about some polygamous men is that no matter the number of wives they have, they still have the stamina to bang their concubines outside the home front.
So if a guy suddenly refuses to bang his wife and yet does not have any sexual problem, it means something is wrong somewhere.
I know of a woman whose husband had not balled her for the past five years now. The woman was not always there. She was deep in her career, always returning late at night, building her career. The husband would return at night and there wouldn’t be food.
He detested cafeteria food, but at a point, he started stopping at one on his way home. There he fell in love or in lust with one of the serving girls (waitresses). Ever since he started banging the girl and later married her, he had never balled his legal wife.
The legal wife refused to walk out of the marriage, insisting that she’s the wife recognized by God. The husband had been starving her of sex, since. Even when she made brave attempts, he’d only stared at her nakedness and looked away like she repulses him.
Please don’t even bother to ask me what the heck happened. I don’t know! If you have an idea why he’s punishing his legal wife this way, please do let me know.
Sex for most married women is more than a stiff manhood, pouring holy water into the honey well of a woman!
A wife longs more for her man’s touch, the emotional connection of being together that comes with sex.
There are many women whose husbands are simply not hot for them. This usually bothers the woman. It is one thing for the guy to return home one day and claim being tired and thus not able to indulge in any bedmatics, but it’s quite something else if these excuses snowball into a month, two months or more!
It’s even worse when the guy tells his wife to seek solace in the arms of another man! You looked shocked?
Well, don’t be! There are a lot of men like that. They attempt to push their wives into the arms of another man. Beats me if I know or understand why.
If a guy no longer wants his wife, the best thing would be to tell her or go for divorce. But to starve her of sex or tell her to go and meet another guy for sex, is hitting below the belt!
This sort of cold attitude to sex, could lead to separation, if not divorce. There is no doubt that the woman will be miserable, if she wants to be balled seriously and the man just isn’t interested.
Depression can cause low sex drive in men. The guy as head of the family may be having financial difficulties, which he has not discussed with his wife.
In Africa, a real man is someone who is able to cater for his wife and children. And when he tries to make ends meet and the ends refuse to meet, he can become depressed and discouraged. Not being able to meet up with his responsibilities at home could affect his self-esteem. Sex could be the last thing on his mind.
This situation however differs from men to men. To some men, the remedy for such financial malady is bouts of sex!
Some men begin to have sexual inhibitions if they have a nagging wife, one full of criticism of his sexual prowess in bed. He tells himself that no matter how he gyrates in bed like a monkey putting on a show, his wife wouldn’t be pleased anyway, so why bother to try!
This brings me back to my argument: husbands should learn or cultivate the habit of having discussions with their wives irrespective of the subject matter. If a husband can’t discuss issues that have to do with sex with his wife, who can he discuss it with?
If a wife can’t complain of being sexually unsatisfied to her husband or finds her husband a bore in bed, who is she supposed to complain to? Definitely not their pastor for crying out loud!
In these days of religion proliferation, there is nothing that couples don’t table before their pastors. Even down to the kind of soup they are planning to cook. If you’re complaining to your pastor about your husband’s shortcoming in bed, what message are you sending across to your pastor?
If you care to ask me, only one answer comes to mind: you are dying to sample your pastor’s koboko!
I will be the first to agree that some men are terrible in bed. I call them disasters in bed! They don’t even know the first thing about preparing a woman for the imperial act.
They lack the finesse to make a babe wet. There are a good number of men who can’t even romance a babe to the extent that she begins moan and beg him to mount and ride her!
Yes, there are men who are monkeys in bed. Men who even before the woman is wet and ready, are already tearing into her honey pot, tearing tissues in the process and causing pain instead of giving pleasure.
The weapon that is supposed to be one of pleasure will become a weapon of destruction. It is even more so if the guy’s weapon is on the large size. The type that uses roughrider condoms! I know you got my drift!
I sometimes wish a babe could tell a bad lover just by looking at the guy.
But alas, we can’t! If only we can. I will not even speak with such men. What the heck is so difficult to learn about giving a woman pleasure in bed? That a guy is good looking doesn’t mean he’ll be hot in bed. Nay!
Some men are just not willing to learn, while others are too impatient to wait and make sure the babe is ready for them.
A babe knows when a guy is very excited. It is when his one eyed snake begins to emit the first tears of passion from its one eye. It excites her, especially if she’s playing with the turgid head of his snake. A guy too should be able to know when a girl is heading to the point of no return. The first sign is a surging ocean in her well!
The impatient male lover is often more interested in attaining his own orgasm, than in giving his female partner pleasure in bed.
Any day your lousy husband pleases you in bed, try to praise him. It will do a lot of good to his self-esteem.
Overwhelming problems, fatigue, alcohol, drugs, can begin to lower a guy’s sexual drive. He needs to see his doctor. There’s no sense in bottling such problems up. It could kill your marriage.
Imagine a marriage devoid of sex, you begin to understand what sexual frustration is all about. Sex, whether we like it or not, is the nucleus of a marriage…without sex…hum…I really don’t know!
When your husband starts starving you of sex, try not to be discouraged or begin to imagine that something is wrong with you. Never let anyone, especially your husband, tell you that you’re not attractive. You’re lovable! Whatever happens in the course of this sort of crisis in the marriage, never blame yourself. And don’t play the martyr.
True, being less attractive can dampen your husband’s sexual urge for you. There was definitely something he saw in you, which drew him like magnet to you, before he dated and married you.
It could be your dressing, hairdo, shape or make up that attracted him to you.
Some men like their wives looking very chic, even after four or five kids. Who says you can’t?
This means you have to make sure you wear the right clothes, manicure and pedicure. The babe’s make up will have to be nicely done.
Some babes after one or two kids will begin to tie wrapper on their chest 24 hours a day! They can even go to the end of the streets in only a wrapper! Haba!
They forget there’s something called bra. Their hair stands on end, begging for a hair dresser to touch it.
Men react more to what they see. Even if he has to switch off the light to bang you, his manhood will first have to nod its head. The message has to be transmitted from his brain to his manhood, before it begins to engorge with blood and seek an outlet to burrow into.
It is also possible that your husband may begin to feel revulsion for you because you’re beginning to get too fat. He may not shout it, but he will be dropping hints. Listen to those hints. If you don’t want to lose him, begin to exercise and burn some of those fat. Watch what you eat.
If the man however has a sexual problem, let him try as much as possible to tell his wife. The wife can support him by following him to see a doctor. You can still work out this problem before it destroys the marriage.
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