That was not what the visit was meant to achieve. The IVLP is a five-star programme of the State Department designed to expose carefully selected participants to the US system of government, to help them understand how the system works in the hope that they would use the experience when they return home
A 39-year-old trader, Modinat Idowu, told an Igando Customary Court in Lagos State on Thursday that she would continue to deny her husband, Akeem Idowu, sex until he has paid the debt he is owing her.
Idowu said this while responding to a suit filed by her 45-year-old husband whom he had been married to for 12 years.
She said: “I have been denying my husband sex because he borrowed N690,000 from me and has refused to pay.
“I will continue to starve him of sex until he pays the money.
“Akeem is in the habit of swearing and cursing me with a charm called ‘Ishan egungun’, a specially prepared masquerade’s rod, and this is affecting my life.”
Mrs. Idowu, however, urged the court not to grant her husband’s wish for the dissolution of their marriage, saying that she was still in love with him.
Akeem, a businessman, had asked the court to dissolve the 12-year-old marriage over alleged sex denial by his wife.
He said: “My wife does not want me to touch her nor make love to her.
“I am tired of the marriage because I am neither a stick nor a stone.”
Akeem alleged that his wife loved attending social activities and hardly stayed at home.
Whenever she went out, she would not return home until after five days or seven days, he said.
He said: “My wife will go from one party to another, spending days and neglecting the family.
“I have reported her severally to her father who always calls her to order but there has been no positive change.”
Akeem described Modinat as a liar, not trustworthy and always inconsistent in her words and actions.
He said: “Modinat lies a lot.
“One day, she told me that she was going to Mushin in Lagos State, but some hours later, someone called to tell me that she was in Igbo-Ora in Oyo State.
“When I called her and confronted her that she was in Oyo State as against Mushin she claimed she was going to when she left home, she cut her cell phone line.
“She took permission on another day that she was going to Oshodi, but someone saw her at Ijebu-Ode in Ogun State.
“I cannot just account for her movement.”
Akeem pleaded with the court to dissolve the union since he was no longer interested and did not love her any more.
The President of the court, Hakeem Oyekan, adjourned the case to July 22 for further hearing.
Some ladies can’t handle heart break and disappoints. As women, just as our faces are different, so are our shock absorbers.
It was actually an office romance. Nothing wrong in office romance, but you’ve got to be careful whom you pick to ball. He’s a married guy and had dated and dropped tons of girls in the office.
The lady…nay! Delete that! Let’s say the woman. Yes, the woman. The woman is said to be single, while others said she’s widow. The bottom line however is that she’s a loner. No guy hovering around her enclave.
I have seen her several times at the office. She hardly talks and was hard of hearing. Seems she has a problem. I don’t know. The few times I tried to interact with her, I left in frustration. And because she finds it hard to communicate her desires and feelings, she’s often given to fits of anger and provocation.
Those who are close to her said one could shout until you’re blue in the face, but she wouldn’t be able to hear you.
The ace is to get her to look at your face. Yeah, she read lips. Then she would try to reply through gesticulation and funny sounding ways. She’s however an excellent and brilliant typist.
When she suddenly started taking extra care with her dressing and applying make-up, we all knew something was up.
We however never knew that the something, standing on two legs, with dangling two-linesmen and one referee, was in our office.
Whatever the something going between them was, it was too short.
We however got to know the guy when she suddenly, fuming and making a lot of angry noises, grabbed his brand new laptop and shattered it on the ground. She was actually going for his jugular when members of staff that were nearby held her.
She burst into tears. The story later filtered out of course.
The guy looked shocked and visibly scared. The idiot! Only God knows what on earth he had said to her to get her to open wide for him.
I mean, the woman was just too reserved and a loner. I remembered labelling her the “ice queen”. She was pretty in her own, unique way. How the guy stormed across her frozen stance, bridged her heart and buried himself in her jungle beats me.
While the romance lasted, she was all smile and sunniness.
Hummm! Love! It can get anybody, not matter how hardened, to smile like a fool! Those who pretend to be the hardest where love is concerned, falls the hardest.
I didn’t know what the guy was thinking when he approached the woman, but he shouldn’t have trifled with her emotions.
He may probably be beating his chest like Tanza, telling himself he did her favour by greasing her honey that had become almost rusting.
But who needs to go through hell just because of a few rolls in the sack? Believe me, nursing a broken heart is akin to hell!
The thing about a few rolls in the sack is that you get to a point, you would want more. A point when you realise a roll in the hay is no longer enough.
Most people, who gossiped about the shortlived affair, felt the guy took the woman for a ride because of her physical impairment. Many said he swooped and chopped her because he felt she was too deaf and dumb to do anything after he would have been through with her.
I don’t know. But the moral here is that every one of us has a heart that can be broken. Nobody’s heart, no matter the person’s shortcomings or flaws, should be trifled with.
This guy had severally chopped a lot of babes and dropped them. He may very well have picked her because he found her attractive and his one-eyed snake jumped at the sight of her. I don’t know. Only God knows. But do treat everyone with respect. We deserve it!
I have however always tried to warn people about blow job with people that suffer from epilepsy. Just like I said, they too are people and have hearts.
They can love and be loved. They can ball and be balled. But I heard a story that happened in campus and since then, I had been telling people to be careful when it comes to oral sex with epileptic lovers.
If you’re interested in hearing what a guy told me happened in their hostel during our undergraduate days, please do let me know. Yes, I know that some of you had already heard the story from me before. But what the heck, let others hear and decide. We shouldn’t get tired of sounding warnings.
Sex should be enjoyed and that enjoyment shouldn’t become a source of bitterness in the middle or aftermath of the act.
Okay folks, holler me o jare!
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Have you ever seen or met a deaf and dumb guy?
Does he look any different from a guy who can prattle?
A deaf and dumb guy is the same as any other guy out there.
He has balls just like the next guy in the next room. He can ball any girl and most importantly, he has a heart.
The heart can be broken too. Just like yours and mine.
That he’s deaf and dumb doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be treated right.
You don’t really need to be a rocket scientist to know the nitty-gritty of lovemaking. Thus, no matter the person’s physical impairment, he or she should be able to ball.
This same philosophy should be applied to physically challenged people.
There are however narrow minded folks; folks who think less of deaf and dumb people. They tend not to respect them and treat them as semi human beings. Personally, such jerks have rotten tomatoes for brains!
If a guy is crippled or has withered arms, it doesn’t mean he can’t perform in bed. Many of them are very prolific in bedmatics and scoring. And even their women are very versatile in catching.
Do you know the number of crippled women I see every day at Agege and Iyana-Ipaja with babies?
I’m not here to talk about how effective their engine works, but to tell you that they have hearts and hearts can be broken.
No matter whom you want to fool around with, never forget that the person has a heart that can be broken.
Mine had been broken so often that I have now encased it in a frozen jar. Once in a while, I feel someone trying to break it open, then I find out he’s a jerk. And the cracks simply go back to its former form.
I’ve never been in love with a deaf and dumb guy, but I understand they love just like the gays and lesbian do.
You don’t know how the gay and lesbian love?
Ha! They love to death! They are very possessive and extremely jealous. They protect their lovers.
You’re probably wondering why the heck I’m writing this.
Yes, it’s a sound question.
I would have gotten to that point eventually. But since you’re eager to get me moving, I may as well spill my gut out now.
Yes, a guy pissed me off! I know what you’re going to say. You’re going to say: “Guys are always” pissing me off. And you would be very much mistaking.
Don’t get me wrong. I like guys. But a good number of them are jerks!
Guys are good for something I guess. God created them for something. Thus, we women can’t do without them. What do you think I meant by that statement? What do you think God created them for to do with women? It’s not a trick question! It’s a pretty straight forward question.
Anyway, back to the reason I’m ruminating along this lane.
Something happened to two people I know. I felt divided between the guy and lady. I however felt that most guys should be disciplined enough in picking ladies.
Some ladies just don’t know how to handle break up. Many are not cut out for a one-night stand. I’m not cut out for a one-night stand also. I’m more of the lesbian type. I’m damn too jealous and possessive. I very much believe in flaunting a lover. I’m not cut out for a secret lover’s kind of lifestyle. I especially wished to be loved and made the centre of my lover’s world.
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Does that mean you're over the sexual hill after turning 30? No, fortunately, because staying frisky is more about physical and mental health and the strength of your relationship than it is about age, says J. Stephen Jones, M.D., F.A.C.S., a urologist with the Cleveland Clinic. It's just that getting older is too often accompanied by weight gain, declining health, increased stress, and stale relationships, he says
"My husband and I have sex every night because it's a moment in the day that is just about the two of us. We are parents to a toddler, so when we lay him down for bed each night, we can then spend the rest of the night expressing how we feel about each other physically. Having sex allows us to be passionate, to show affection and we enjoy pleasing each other." - Christie M. of Arkansas; married 3 years