It was actually a heated argument in the office some weeks ago. While some men argued that it was wrong to let their wives know how much they receive as salaries every month, others argued otherwise.
Women in the office were soon caught up in the argument, with many of them cheering men who said it was okay to share such knowledge with their wives.
Most of the men, who said the idea was cool, were born-again.
What is your stand on this subject matter? Do you belong to the school that believes in hiding their pay check from their wives? Do you belong to those who share it with their wives?
Personally, I don’t even know the platoon I belong. But my thing is this: if my husband doesn’t want to let me know how much he is collecting each month, it’s alright with me as long as he does his duties at the home front.
You wouldn’t believe that some women give their guys hell for shielding their salaries from them.
I wonder why it’s a big deal to them.
But the truth of the matter is this: it pays to let your wife know how much you collect each month, so that she doesn’t over budget and doesn’t expect more than you have to give.
A wife should care if her husband begins to live large, especially if she knows his salary.
A clever wife should be able to guess how much her husband is spending and what he had left after he splurges on one expensive item or the other.
She should be able to question him if he’s spending more than his earnings.
If your husband buys something that is more than his salary, maybe three times his salary, you should be bothered.
Why? Because you’re the first person cops will pick if they couldn’t get him.
This is why I sometimes don’t feel sorry for women arrested by policemen as accomplices to their husbands who are robbers. How can you not know he’s into some criminal activities? Is it that she didn’t know or she pretended not to know?
Some husbands leave home every night, buy their wives expensive jewelry and cars, yet the wives wouldn’t question such husbands about the nature of their jobs or how much they receive.
Many robbers used to tell their wives that they are businessmen. Yeah, business covers a range of crime.
Do most women even care what their husbands do for a living? They just want to have the good things of life.
If your husband can’t afford to buy a little car, but buys a Jeep, valued at millions of naira, you should ask questions.
Loving and caring are important elements in marriage. If you love your guy, you should care about how he might end up.
Those against letting their wives know what they collect every month, said that they discovered women are good in assisting husbands to spend their salaries.
They argued that once a woman knows her husband’s salary, she wouldn’t let go until she had ran through the whole lot of the money.
Do wives allow their husbands to know their salaries? Most do, but still a larger percentage will hide it from their husband. They had rather assist their husbands in mapping out ways to spend his, rather than show him and pool resources together.
I know that most men don’t even ask their wives to share the responsibilities in the home with them. Except in exceptional cases whereby the woman earns more than her husband or the guy works where he’s not well paid. Most guys naturally expect their wives to assist in supporting the family without being asked. I definitely champion that idea.
I was shocked when I went to visit a boss of mine and discovered that his wife would ask him for money even when she wants to buy crayfish and kerosene.
Can you beat that?
It happened in my presence. I couldn’t believe it. This was a woman who is one of the senior staff in her place of work. What do you make of such women?
The guy complained about it. Apparently she spends her whooping salary on ‘God.’
Please don’t ask me what that means. I also know that she’s crazy about expensive jewelry. Guess who pays for them? Yeah! Her darling husband.
Honestly, some women are just too lucky!
My friend, Bello, argues that sharing such knowledge is what marriage is all about. When you’re married, you’re supposed to share everything with your wife/husband. You have become one.
It’s called trust. Shielding your pay slip from her/him is like keeping a secret from your spouse.
Marriage means you guys have become one and building the family, with what money is available. This becomes paramount in the family.
If both partners know how much each collects, they would also be able to manage and plan. They could earmark certain amount of money for the upkeep of the household, pay bills and rub minds together on what to save for the raining days. Or decide whether they should buy that piece of land or begin to build on the already available piece of land.
If there are debts to pay, a couple should be able to know how to go about off-setting the debts without dragging the nuclear family into crisis.
All these become possible because a couple see each other as partners. It becomes possible because they know and understand what’s on the table from both ends and will be prudent in handling the finances.
If you keep hiding your salary from your wife, it’s likely she would keep demanding for money even when there’s no more. When you tell her that you’re broke, she’ll think you’re lying.
Every one of us knew my father’s salary when he was working. We all knew when to and not to ask for money. It was the natural course in the home. Back then, I didn’t understand why father did it.
Now I guess I’m beginning to understand.
Once you’re married, issues such as knowing your spouse salary should develop on both of you. It should be a natural course of event.
The husband or wife should not mandate his/her spouse to present the pay slip. Such demands are how the troubles begin at home. Think about it.
Moreover, such sharing are actually ties that bind a couple stronger. Don’t get me wrong. It’s not a yardstick to a successful marriage, but it’s a step towards a better relationship with your spouse.
Hiding your pay check from your spouse, by Anurika Onyelemelam
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