But what really got Oji sitting up was when I told him about mistresses using black magic on their lovers to ‘padlock’ manhood.
Yes O!
Whether you believe it or not, it’s not going to change the fact that it’s happening every day.
Even housewives have been known to use it on their husbands.
A woman is a woman, whether she’s a mistress or a housewife. The most difficult property to share among women is the manhood.
No matter how much a lady loves her friend or sister, it’s always a tough decision to share her man’s sugar stick.
Thus, a mistress will start a love affair with a guy, knowing full well that he’s married. But after a while into the relationship, she might want him for keeps.
That’s where the problem starts. Some mistresses are even more possessive than the legal wife.
They are so possessive that they no longer want the guy to be able to service his legal wife at home. They now see the sugar stick as their own!
They seek desperate measures to secure his sugar bar for only themselves.
When it’s time for the guy to bang the mistress, you’d see him roaring like a lion…his JT will become erect like an angry god, with all the sinews standing on end…it’ll practically breathe fire and brimstones so to say.
But when it’s time to bang his legal wife, the same JT will become as flabby as an eko (pap). No matter how hard he tries, it will stubbornly remain flaccid, lying down among those hairs like a bored soldier who was heartily sick of fighting wars and you know what sort of wars I mean.
It could wag its head tiredly, but that’s it…it won’t and can’t possibly do justice to any babe’s honey pot. I mean, if it can’t stand, how on earth is it supposed to penetrate the woman?
It happened to my friend Omokuje. I have told you guys this story before. It’s a true story.
My friend is a born womaniser. He fell in lust with a certain lady. The lady’s father is an herbalist. He got her pregnant and reluctantly married her to keep her family off his hairs.
Naturally, he didn’t stop his philandering. It was so bad that the lady caught him repeated times in the clutches of another woman. It was also so bad, that she got to know the ladies Omokuje was banging on their street. Oh the shame…the wagging tongues anytime she walked pass…the sniggers…
One day, Omokuje was about to plunder another conquest, but he was shell shocked when his manhood refused to heed his call to ‘attention.’ He tried all he could, including urging the lady to take him into his mouth, but the snake just would not hiss, let alone to slither! It was the height of embarrassment for him. For men who belonged to his category, whose rating in bed is all the ego boosting they needed, it was the height of disgrace. He left the room with his tail between his legs: he looked crushed and humiliated.
When he got home, his wife wanted to play. He couldn’t tell her that something was wrong with his manhood. But he didn’t need to anyway. Before he could say Jack Robison, his one eyed snake, which had been on vacation on that same day, suddenly hissed to life.
He went for another conquest, thinking it was a momentary lapse, but alas it happened again. When he got home, the thing got up again. It was almost as if his wife was a snake charmer, holding the remote control to the snake in her husband’s pants.
Without discussing with his wife, Omokuje went to all his friends, telling them to come and beg his wife to release his manhood to become normal. It was that important to him. The normalcy I mean.
When they reached the presence of the lady, nobody bothered with an explanation, they all fell down flat on their stomachs, begging the shocked lady.
It was actually Omokuje who later narrated this story to me. He told me that before his manhood went back to normal, they had to go and beg the lady’s father.
I pity those who keep saying ‘juju no dey.’
Sometimes, the guy not having interest in sex could be a combination of many factors, with office issues playing major roles. When you ask your guy ‘what’s going on,’ try and pay attention to what he is saying and what he is not saying.
Don’t ever jump to the conclusion that because he’s not giving it to you, that means he’s probably giving it to somebody else. Nothing destroys relationship faster than lack of trust. When he starts having these moments of lack of interest in sex, try and be a friend.
Naturally, it’s possible for him to make you come, even though he is not interested in sex at that moment. He could make you reach orgasm by fondling your clitoris and suckling it, but believe me, you won’t enjoy it.
The best form of sex is one shared and enjoyed equally. He wants you and you want him. You’re not carrying out a duty. Neither is he carrying out a duty. If he’s in the mood and goes down on you, you’d enjoy it because he would want to savour you. But if he’s not in the mood, he would want to get it over with fast.
There is however a pointed problem if he continues to experience this lack of sex for long. As a wife, you may need to try and find out if his lack of interest only has to do with you. The trouble however is this: if he has sexual interest in other women and his manhood gets up and plunders other honeys, he wouldn’t want to tell you, for fear of hurting you. The truth is that men who cheat on their wives are not monsters. It does not even mean they don’t love their wives. For some it’s a game, for others they probably genuinely care about the other woman in their lives. Such affairs are always often over even before it had started.
Since you know he wouldn’t tell you about banging or lusting after another woman, why not try another approach. Ask him what he needs you to do, to excite him. Ask him where you could touch, fondle, caress to sexually excite him. Ask him about his sexual fantasy. We all have one or many. But if after everything, he still remains in his cocoon, then there’s need for drastic decision. But the call is yours.
Normally, such a reaction affects a woman’s self esteem. Every woman wants to be sexually desired, especially by her husband. If he suddenly starts acting weird whenever intimacy comes up, she would start thinking something is wrong with her. In a country such as Nigeria, every bad which is associated with marriage or breakup of marriage, is always placed at the doorstep of women. And I keep telling women to fight such stereotyping. It takes a couple to make a successful marriage, not just the wife.
Another disgusting factor is that some men, for reasons I still can’t fathom, use sex as a tool for punishment. So when some of them start acting like they have no interest in banging their wives, it means the woman had annoyed them in some ways. And such wicked men continue to get away with this sort of punishment because they know their wives can’t cheat on them, while they on the other hand can pummel other women’s honey as they want. You won’t believe that some men who are angry or annoyed with their wives will even deprive the wives of ‘feeding money’ just to show they are the boss at the home front. They care less how the kids feed or pay school fees while the feud lasts.
Let’s also not forget that depression can affect a guy’s sexual desires. He may genuinely be suffering from erectile dysfunctional…there are other factors, not mentioned here, but before you take any decision when sexual frustration sets into marriages, try communication, seek medical help and therapy. Give the relationship everything you’ve got…It’s worth fighting for before you roll those dice and shut the door.
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