Let me start by saying all forms of sex is still sex. Having got that out of the way, I believe lovemaking is just a form of sex.
It’s just like when you are hungry and want to eat, you can decide to have whatever suits your appetite at that point in time.
Same goes for sex. Depending on who you are with, you can decide to have the kind of sex that is slow and soft with romantic music playing in the background or you can decide to have the hardcore with some effects of BDSM. I believe it’s the connection that determines what kind of sex you have. Some people believe there is more value in “making love” than “having sex”.
Still here are the signs to show that someone is making love to you:
1. There is intense eye contact during the sex experience…the type that almost feels like the person is looking into your soul.
2. A lot of kissing during and even after the sex.
3. There is a lot of touch, not only on your genitals. They touch your cheek, kiss your shoulder and forehead and even intertwine their fingers with yours.
4. They take their time to please you. The focus is on your pleasure and not theirs.
5. They tell you they love you during the sex.
6. They cuddle with you after the sex instead of just sleeping off.
7. They are gentle with how they touch you.
8. The sex is initiated after an emotional conversation.
It is important to note that the fact that all these is not present in your experience does not mean you are not making love. We are all different, so your experience may include just one or some of the above mentioned.
The only way to really know if someone is using sex as an expression of love is if they tell you that’s how they feel about it.
Whatever sex you are having, the goal is to have fun while doing it.
So over to you, what’s your take? Sex or lovemaking?
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