It is the norm that men should pursue the women and the woman should wait to be pursued. This has made a lot of women to be uncomfortable about initiating sex. Some women fear being seen as “wayward” or “loose” if they initiate sex. So they will rather wait for the man to do so, even if they want sex so bad. Yet, several studies have shown that many men like it when their female partner initiates sex.
A woman who initiates sex often stimulates her partner’s sex drive and his desire for her, which helps drive this entire process.
There is a lot of pressure on men, as it is. They have to ask for first dates and initiate sex. This can lead to routine. You probably know exactly how your partner is going to ask for sex if you’ve had sex a few times already. That can make you feel uninspired.
But initiating sex yourself takes the pressure off your partner. And it can change up your routine. If you get the ball rolling, the encounter might be different. You can even make a point of directing the way it goes, which can be exciting and pleasurable! When you leave your inhibitions aside, your pleasure will increase.
As a sexually assertive female, don’t be afraid to initiate sex or express your pleasure by moaning, as this will heighten the experience for you and your partner. When you make the first move, it shows your partner that you find him attractive. This can be a huge turn-on for him.
Here are a few tips on how to initiate sex and be more sexually active:
1. Be direct: It’s always best to be direct about it because guys can be a bit oblivious to your hints. You might realise this if you’ve hinted at wanting sex before and your partner didn’t pick up on it. Tell him that you want sex or ask him if he’d like to have sex. Watch as your guy’s face lights up at the idea!
2. Use body language: You can go the nonverbal route. When you’re cuddling with your guy, amp things up by going for his zipper, groping him over his pants or grinding your hips against his. Consider grabbing his hands and moving them to some parts of your body – your breasts or crotch – that sends an undeniable message and can make for great foreplay.
3. Send a steamy text: If you haven’t worked yourself up to initiating sex in person, then sending a flirty text is the way to go. You might send a sultry picture or simply let your guy know how much you miss him. Perhaps you talk about a particularly satisfying encounter in the past.
4. Dress the part: Is there something sexy that your partner wishes you’d wear more, but you feel a little self-conscious about? Well, it’s time to step up to that challenge. If you step out wearing something sexy, you’re bound to give the right signal, and your partner is likely to stop what he’s doing and pay attention to you!
5. Press yourself against him: You know how you can sometimes feel your guy’s erection pressed against you when you’re cuddling? His body wants to have sex, and you should take advantage of this if you do, too! So grind your booty against his erection and move his hands to your breasts, and you are on your way to getting what you want.
6. Take control: If sex is what you want, you should take control of the situation. You can switch things up by getting on top of him when you’re cuddling, pinning his arms above his head and kissing him passionately.
7. Foreplay: While guys think with more than just their dicks, they’re usually pretty receptive to stimulation. So if you unzip his pants and start going down on him, it’s likely to lead to some hot sex.
8. Join him in the shower: You can step in with him when he’s in the middle of his morning/night bath or you can drop your clothes and invite him to join you in the shower on your way to the bathroom!
9. Let him catch you pleasuring yourself: It’s super hot to see your partner pleasuring himself, and most men think the same about their partners. So keep the door open and make a little noise when you are touching yourself… with or without a toy. The sight and sounds will likely drive him into a frenzy – and into your arms!
Feel free to get creative when you initiate sex. Recognise that some methods work better than others, and that timing is important, too. You won’t always wind up rolling in the sheets, but sometimes your efforts will lead to a big payout.
As you’re enjoying sex, make sure to keep up your active role. Touch your partner and yourself. Get on top. Let him know that you’re in the moment with him! And most importantly, have fun.
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