In the last few months, I’ve had to deal with quite a number of misunderstandings and fights among couples. Interestingly, it was the men who came complaining about their female partners. Most of them caught their partners in some rather compromising situations with the opposite sex. Others found incriminating text messages on their partners’ phones. All these indicate that the female partners were cheating on their male partners. What makes the matters worse is that the women are not really being discreet about this. The analogy that it’s mostly men who cheat because their partners lose interest in sex is outdated.
Scientific researches have shown that it is actually women who struggle most with monogamy because they get bored in the bedroom.
Women crave sexual variety and while some stifle their desire, others will be unfaithful.
To understand the current trends in female infidelity, it is essential to consider the historical context. Traditionally, women were often expected to uphold the sanctity of marriage, heavily influenced by societal, religious, and familial pressures. Infidelity was frequently associated with male behaviour, with women seen as passive victims or righteous caretakers of their homes.
However, the late 20th and early 21st centuries have witnessed significant social changes. The feminist movement has encouraged women to assert their independence and challenge traditional gender roles. With increased access to education and employment opportunities, women are no longer confined to domestic roles. This shift has implications for their desires, needs, and relationships.
Here are some of the dynamics at play when considering why women cheat:
1. Changing Gender Roles: As traditional gender roles evolve, women have gained more independence and autonomy. This shift may lead to increased opportunities for infidelity, as women are more socially and economically empowered than in the past.
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2. Emotional Satisfaction: For many women, emotional connection and fulfillment in a relationship are paramount. If these needs aren’t met in their marriage, they might seek validation or intimacy elsewhere. This can sometimes lead to infidelity as a response to unmet emotional needs.
3. Increased Awareness and Environment: Today’s digital age fosters connections through social media and dating apps, which can facilitate extramarital affairs. Women are increasingly using these platforms, making it easier to engage in infidelity.
4. Cultural Acceptance: In some circles, there is a growing acceptance of infidelity as a part of adult relationships. This cultural shift may give women the confidence to pursue extramarital relationships without the same level of stigma that previously existed.
5. Maturation and Experiences: Some studies suggest that women’s reasons for cheating may be linked to life stages and experiences. As women progress into different phases of life, they may reassess their relationships and desires, leading to infidelity.
6. Power Dynamics: In some cases, the act of cheating can be a way for women to reclaim power in a relationship where they feel dominated or less valued. This can manifest in seeking out relationships that provide them with a sense of agency.
7. Desire for Variety: Just as men have historically been assumed to seek variety, women may also harbour similar desires, particularly if they feel confined by their current relationship dynamics.
Studies have shown that institutionalisation in a long-term partnership dampens women’s sexual desire more than men’s. Men who have regular sex with their partners are more satisfied sexually and with their relationship, but it’s not the same for the women. It is said that sex researchers are now entertaining the possibility that women simply need variety and novelty of sexual experience more than men do
While these factors may contribute to the rise of infidelity among women, it’s essential to emphasise that infidelity is a complex behaviour influenced by a multitude of factors.
In conclusion, if as a man you find your female begins to drift away, the first thing to do is have a conversation about it. This conversation will determine whether the relationship is worth saving or you count your losses and pack it up.
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